The More We See Ourselves, the Less We Judge

As long as you externally consider another person with a view to trying to change him or her—that is, as long as you think the other person should be different—you are not externally considering, but internally considering. The basis of internal considering is thinking that others should be different, and from this comes "making accounts" against others…

One thing is quite certain, and that is that the more sincerely we observe ourselves and what is in us, the less smug we shall be. And from this it follows that we shall be less satisfied to think that we know what the other person should be like.

Maurice Nicoll, "Internal Considering and External Considering VI” in Psychological Commentaries on the Teaching of Gurdjieff and Ouspensky (Vol. 1, p. 268-9)